8:30 AM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

A says: I made it to work a lil after 8, and am seated ready for the day at 8:30!!!!!! can you believe it!!! I dont get in until 10.... ish. I didnt even use an alarm clock. "Somebody give me a cookie ASAP!"

Dee Says: Congrats A! You can have whatever you like!

Damn, A I just checked the blog.

Dere says : I get a late pass the services are tomorrow at 11am. My Bad!  We finally drank the nuvo yummy. You Can recommend me a drink any day you are batting 1000%. 

Can I be lame for a second??

So, you know I "okay" mailings from organizations wanting to use our member list. I ran across a list of rules for Hospice volunteers that I found overwhelmingly fitting for the rules of basic friendship in its' truest form. The kind of rules I think we at least share if no one else. The rules put my thoughts into words perfectly. Plus, you may want to share it with the folks nagging you right about now...LOL -Check it out...

• Companioning is about being present to another person's pain; it is not about taking away the pain.
• Companioning is about going to the wilderness of the soul with another human being; it is not about thinking you are responsible for finding the way out.
• Companioning is about honoring the spirit; it is not about focusing on the intellect.
• Companioning is about listening with the heart; it is not about analyzing with the head.
• Companioning is about bearing witness to the struggle of others; it is not about judging or directing these struggles.
• Companioning is about walking alongside; it is not about leading or being led.
• Companioning means discovering the gifts of sacred silence; it does not mean filling up every moment with words.
• Companioning is about being still; it is not about frantic movement forward.
• Companioning is about respecting disorder and confusion; it is not about imposing order and logic.
• Companioning is about learning from others; it is not about teaching them.
• Companioning is about curiosity; it is not about expertise.

I Miss The East Coast... Sometimes!

Dee Says: I made it to the East!

How's your day?

A Says: It was good. I came to work late, but I got a lot of work done. Plus the John Legend Concert. I'll post a recap in a few. I'm glad you made it safe. Let me know when the services are maybe I can catch the bus up or something...

A Black Women's Guide to Understanding Black Men...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0OwW88Dwz2s

A Says: I have no words. She has some good points... she's a bit drastic though.

Dee Says:  I think she's playing Devils advocate in order to drum up some publicity  to sell the book.  Dude in the audience said "you are the don king of book selling"  i concur.

a can i ask u a question?

please put your response in this post.

dee

A Says: Of course you can!!!

Dee Says: What do you miss most about grandmama?

A Says: I miss talking to her the most. We had phone dates every week. Grandmama had no cut cards and a lot of country sayings that left you with more questions than answers at times. I mean just knowing she was there was a VERY comforting feeling. I think that is a feeling that most desire in relationships overall not just from a grandparent.

Dee Says: Phone dates you stay with all the cool lingo a. I think that i will miss most abt my granny is now matter how mad, sad or indifferent she always let out a little laugh afterwards which let me know that she was in complete control of her emotions. I remember we had a lot of verbal disagreements all on my behalf but even after i said how i felt no matter how loud or disrespectful i was she still loved me, and cared about me but my sensitive ass just thought she was mean. She really taught me the meaning of unconditional love. Since I moved back home when me and mom would get into it i would call her and she always knew just the right thing to say to make it all right dang man crowder is gone...

A says: unconditional love. Im going to sound a bit corney right now, but to experience unconditional love whether of the receiving or goving end is something special. I think if everyone was able to have that trait life would be waaaaaaaaayyyyy diff.

Dee Says: Preach!!!!  Yeah but then people wouldn't know the meaning of happiness guess we gotta go to heaven to get some of that good stuff.

welcometoheartbreak

there is no beginning, no end

time becomes your worst enemy

or your best friend.

welcometoheartbreak...

I could throw up in my mouth!

I swear to you I have been a plus size chic my ENTIRE life. I have been brown skinned my entire life. I have had normal ass black folks hair my entire life. I mean yeah I work on loosing weight, but it is called a weight problem. The shit may happen or it may not. I'm honestly not that pressed or depressed about it. I was never one of those fat kids who cried b/c they never had friends, or never wanted to get in the pool b/c they didnt want to wear a bathing suite in front of people, or was ashamed to eat in front of their friends. Given I am a sarcastic ass, but I do me. I would be a sarcastic ass if I was a stereotypical bomb shell with an IQ of 170 and 50 Million in the bank, my family would not have it any other way. The only things I say I cant do right now would have to do with running marathons and certain gym activities.

Now, I know I am not a show stopper, but I am a pretty fly chica. My hair is decent pressed or natural, nails clean, skin clear, glasses fly, makeup cute, clothes fashionable. I know I am not every guys type physically, I'm not most guys type physically. Every guy isnt mine either, but after you get to know someone looks become a lil less important... in my book at least. I have always seen the physical differences in people, I think anyone who says they dont is a lier. However, I have never equated common differences with people as positives and negatives.

The Point. I NEVER knew my looks were so unsatisfying that the way I do carry myself combined with my inner beauty has not been good enough thus far to experience one decent relationship. This combined with the fact that I NEVER in my 25 years did I EVER think that my male friends, the ones I tell all my most private thoughts to. The ones who offer that great male perspective. The ones whose friendships have grown to the point of being damn near family. The guys who are their to pick me up after some jerk plays my heart b/c of my physical traits ( the majority of the time) or what ever ..... ..... .... .... would EVER not want to wife you up for the same reasons these other guys havent. I'm plus sized, brown skinned, with regular ass black hair! SO WHAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So now, I have to think back to all those days they offered a shoulder to lean on and think.... YOU think the same shit! They are not as spiritual and open minded as they project themselves to be. Then, if you point it out it is just my mindset and my views on things... WTF. I cant make this shit up. It's like they want you to say or admit that you have low self esteem and are depressed over it and that's why you havent found someone. I dont have low self esteem. I'm not depressed over my weight. How about I have standards like any other female should have.I just needed a moment to vent b/c for one of the 1st times in 25 years I realize. YOU ALL ARE THE ONES THAT CARE ABOUT IT MORE THAN I EVER HAVE!!!!!!!!!!!!! So, do me a favor! Stop describing the chic/s you are looking for who have all of my family values, morals, education, educational goals, accomplishments and style except in a girl who is thinner, taller, lighter and with longer hair. Or shorter a bit darker with a buffy booty. And tell me about it. Oh I like her, she reminds me of you....(I'm throwing up in my mouth now) Please! You sound lame.

DeeSays: Sorry For taking hella long with Dee Says but uhh... maybe try throwing up on him  and him instead so he can really feel you.

just my thoughts.

Movin On Up!

Yo,

My job moved into the new office space today.... I finally got my own office! with a lil baby window too. LMAO!